Is Jesus our Friend when Life Goes Wrong?

“Where were you? Why were you not a friend to one of your children. Why did you stand back and allow this situation to take place?”


We often sing Joseph Scriven’s words and quote them in prayer:

“What a Friend we have in Jesus
All our sins and griefs to bear
What a privilege to carry
Everything to God in prayer
Oh what peace we often forfeit
Oh what needless pain we bear
All because we do not carry
Everything to God in prayer”

Inspiring words. Comforting words.

Or are they?

These words are easy to appreciate when there no problems.

When we face grief and pain and struggle to comprehend the imponderables we need these words. Yet we must meet the challenge they present, if we are to receive their comfort.

When I lost a Christian friend to depression and suicide I asked God;

“Where were you? Why were you not a friend to one of your children. Why did you stand back and allow this situation to take place?”

I believe in God’s sovereignty but suddenly I found myself shook with questions that I had never been faced with before.

A short time later I received an answer. I will never know why God allowed that dear brother in the Lord to die in such a manner yet I do know that his Saviour did not abandon him.

The one who was in a darkness of depression did not know that the Lord was with him in that dark place but the Lord was there. We don’t have to feel or experience the Lord’s presence. He with us regardless of our emotions, or thoughts, our feelings.  He promises I will never you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13).  He is bound by His Word.

The Lord was not only there but He understood. He asked his Father to remove the cup, if such a thing a possible, while subjecting himself to the will of God. Under the enormous pressure of Golgotha He sweat great drops of blood. On the cross He cried, “Why hast thou forsaken me?” He knew the answer yet still he asked out of pain. Yes we can ask God questions out of a sense of our pain. We can ask the questions and not be sceptical or carnal.  The Psalmist cried, “Why art thou cast down O my soul?”  When we suffer and ask those questions Jesus understands -He has been there.

The depth of those words of Hebrews 4? – A great High Priest touched with all of our infirmities, tempted on all points as we are. Every conceivable pain, whether physical or psychological – he has suffered that for us. He understands every affliction we experience in this broken world. He understands more than we ever could comprehend or realise.

He is source of victory because He suffered without sin and He defeated every mark of the curse when He rose again.  There is not only consolation in Him but there is triumph in Him also.  AMEN.

No we don’t have to know or comprehend to be the beneficiaries of His presence and to be sure of His peace.

He is always the Friend of God’s children.

Ultimately nothing can separate us from the love of God (Romans 8).

This is a message we must get out to our suffering Christian Friends.  Especially to those who suffer from depression and who have terrible black thoughts.

We must encourage them to share and talk and we must help them appreciate that Jesus Christ is their friend and Saviour regardless of their feelings.

This is a message for every suffering person throughout this broken and desperate world, the tentacles of which affect every life.

Suicide is not the answer – nor is turning from Christ the answer to any of our problems.

He is ever present to succour and relieve.

God is Love.


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